Sadness (Part 1)* - Enigma

This was an e-mail from a mate on her response to one of me earlier posts, "I will always love you":-

Sniff….felt so sad after I read this article…and it’s so true! Some people enter
your life and change it forever, change the way you see, feel and do things,
such that you can’t remember what it was like before they entered it…

Isn’t it sad that forever after, you’re looking for some similarly-shaped person
to fill up the hole he/she left? Isn’t it sad that sometimes it feels like no
one will ever match up to this person? And isn’t it sad watching a new person
try his/her very best to fill it up, and fall so short, and yet you cannot bring
yourself to love him/her more? And isn’t it sad to admit that that one person
has taken with him/her a part of your heart, that’ll never be yours again,
something you can never give to the new person?

The more i thought about it, the more i disagreed wif me mate... on some levels. Yes, it is sad - but if you have ever had such a person (or for some fortunate ones, persons) in your life, would you wish you never met them in the first place?

Even if it causes pain, if if it left a big gap in your heart, even if the longing remains unsatisfied, i doubt that anyone would wish they never experienced such love at one point of time - the knowing looks shared across a crowded room, the pain of goodbye coupled with the anticipation of meeting again, the rush of adrenalin as you walk pass her flat, having that person as the last thought in your mind before you sleep and the first when you awake, sitting together in silence comfortably, feeling like you can take on the whole Empire by yourself when you see her smile...

And altho a part of you has been taken away - forever, i believe - your life would nevertheless be so much more enriched. A paradox, isn't it? You lose something but gain so much. You feel sad but you dun.

Am i making sense???

对于世界而言，你是一个人；但是对于某个人，你是他的整个世界。

不要因为结束而哭泣，微笑吧，为你的曾经拥有。
(yes, yes, i think i have overused this quote in recent times - but it's so true!)

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.
Christian, Moulin Rouge

*This song was originally released in Germany as "Sadeness (Part 1), apparently, a reference to Marquis de Sade. When it was released in the UK, the title was changed to "Sadness (Part 1)" and hit no. 1 in January, 1991.