Love bites* - Def Leppard

Her eyes suddenly welled up in tears as she recalled how he would abuse her verbally and made her feel so bad about herself.

It was then that i realised why in the past couple of hours of chatting, there was none of her trademark laughs, the modulation in her voice as she gets excited (which she does easily), the twinkle in her eyes.

She managed to pull herself together and courageously recounted the harrowing experience she had - while i sat there in silent shock... and seething anger!

Here was one of the most wonderful persons i have met in me life, someone who never failed to raise a smile on me face, make me feel good about life - someone who truly deserve only the best things in life for that is what she is.

Yet, he would yell at her, take out his frustrations on her, does things to hurt her, leave her in in tears, made her feel so utterly useless. And she had to go thru it all in silence, and all by herself as he disallowed her to tell anyone about his fits of rage. And when he has had enuf - which is not much and therefore happens often - he would walk out on her, only to come back and emotionally blackmail her to take him back, using God and guilt to ensure he gets his way. He din have to for she would have accepted him back willingly, in love - and she did. She always did.

But the screaming did not stop. He started throwing things, breaking her things.... and once even almost threw something at her!

What a jerk! What a loser! I have half a mind to travel all the 200 kilometres to where he is and bash the big bully up... well, not really, for that would make me one like him. Instead, i would like to give him a piece of me mind, and tell him to leave her alone and never ever hurt her again.

But i can't.

She has decided to give him another chance. Sure, there are still moments of anger displayed but she assured me that the frequency has decreased. And she knows that if she tries harder, things would improve - altho to me mind, it is obvious that the person who should try is not her.

I would have liked to tell her to leave him, to forget about that b*gger. She deserves so much better - and she could so easily find someone who would value her and love her for who she is.

But she wouldn't. Not now. Can't you see? She loves him...

My heart goes out to her and i only pray that she will be loved - as much as she loves.

But if that fella ever lays a finger on her or hurt her physically, i will put my foot down and get her to leave that loser. And he will have to deal with me...

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
1 Cor 13v4-8 (NIV)

*Surprisingly, this was the only no. 1 single on the Billboard Hot 100 of this hard rock band from Sheffield, despite them selling more records than any rock band in the 80s.